Why taking action creates success
Updated: May 9
"Without action, there cannot be any success; now is the day to take action."
Welcome to my first blog. As we are trying to deal with COVID, stress and anxiety, have risen to new heights. The CDC has reported that of the adult in the United States, 40% of them said they struggle with some type of mental health issue and substance use.
I had grown up with anger issues and when confronted about it I would get defensive. As I got older it was time to do something about the anger, so I searched the internet for information and nothing seemed to work. I came across the book, "Transforming Anger: The HeartMath Solution for Letting Go of Rage, Frustration, and Irritation." I downloaded it to my kindle account and started reading it immediately. As I read it, I would highlight important information and started to practice the methods.
“Anger can be a place to hide from deeper feelings of insecurity, guilt, hurt, disappointment, embarrassment, jealousy, or resentment.” Kindle, location 116 "Transforming Anger..."
Anger is it good or bad or both?
What may cause someone to be angry? There are several reasons, which can be environmental stress from work, spouse issues, child-parent issues, financial stress, relationship conflict, or self-esteem. You may be saying to yourself, “what anger towards me?” Yes, anger towards yourself can be very detrimental to everything about mind, body, and energy. When our mind and heart are not in sync, we may cause many health issues such as constipation, diarrhea, headaches, tense muscles around our neck, shoulders, or lower back.
One word we hear a lot these days is resilience. I have heard one main definition is that it is “rebounding or bouncing back” I have come across one that goes deeper than bouncing back, which comes from the HeartMath website, “Resilience is the ability to prepare for, recover from and adapt in the face of stress, adversity, and the challenge is vital to your physical, mental, emotional and spiritual health.” Stress affects all our being, not just one or two areas but your whole being.
Is there any good in anger? Most people, when they hear this question, will automatically answer “no.” What I am talking about is constructive anger, which can help to release stress; it may motivate us to move forward, such as the protest after the death of George Floyd. People out on the streets making it known that it is not OK to kill an African American man. The protests have motivated people to push for change in the government systems across America.
“I was completely focused on my thought and not think outside the box.”
Anger has its downsides, such as coming across as threatening, may cause fear for those present. Take a pause, think of the last time you were angry, what comes to our mind? Most of us would say, “my mind was cloudy,” “I was completely focused on my thought and not think outside the box,” or “I was on the physical run.”. If a person continues to be negative can cause relationships to fade away and be alone.
What can I do to manage my anger?
There are many different ways to learn to manage your out-of-control anger, which some are journaling, using mindfulness, ad counting down, which are useful techniques, but one method that can be added is Heart Focus Breathing. This technique is easy to use anywhere and in any situation. I will teach you Heart Focus Breathing, by starting to have you place your feet flat on the floor, put your hand on your heart, and close your eyes and now focus on breathing in and out through your heart by counting in five and out five. Do this for 30 seconds, and now journal about what you are feeling. By journaling, you may see why you might react with anger so quickly.