Getting Out of the Way
Updated: May 9
What does it mean to get out of the way? Many of us have difficulty getting past an issue such as being unhappy, drug addiction, anger, or depression. I believe a lot of the reason for not getting past our problems is we have ourselves in the way. You may be asking what I mean by "we have ourselves in the way.", this question came up in one of my meditations last week. After the meditation, I sat there and thought about what it meant to get out of the way. At this point, my mind was blank; I was getting in my way because I was thinking too hard and not letting my mind get into the flow. I relistened to the mediation, and then it clicked, to get in the flow, you have to get out of the way. One thing that was mentioned in the meditation was a quote from Brue Lee, "be like water." Wow, what a concept in such a small phrase, as you about it. As you think about water, where does it go? Does it have resistance? Does it stop? If so, what happens when it is dammed up? Water becomes stagnated, but once it flows, the water is clean and clear. Yes, some dams are artificial or are created by logs, which block the flow. After enough pressure over a long period, it breaks. After the breaking, then the river is back to flowing again. Are you a river that is flowing or all dammed up?
I have had problems getting in the flow and staying in the flow, but today, I have a way to get into the flow and stay in the flow by using HeartMath techniques. When I do my meditation, I use the HeartMath technique called Heart Focus Breathing. It is a method that can be used anytime, anywhere, and people around you will not know that you are using it. This technique alone has helped me in many situations, such as when I know I have to go into a meeting, a tense one, or before I see my clients. Once I have used this simple technique, I get into the flow.
When I have clients or friends learn Heart Focus Breathing, I have them do it in this manner until they have practiced it several times. The first step is to ensure that you are ground by planting your feet flat on the floor or lying down. Put your hand on your heart; your heart is just to the left of the center of your chest. Close your eyes if you are comfortable in doing so. Now all you have to do is focus on your breathe, breathing in and breathing out of your heart. If the five seconds is too long, then shorten it or not long enough to make it longer, whatever is comfortable for you. Breathe in for five seconds, breathe out for five seconds, or whatever you are comfortable with. For some people, the five seconds is too long or too short, do what is comfortable for you. Do this for approximately 30 to 60 seconds. After you have done the method, then journal about your experience. If you have some deep-seated issues come up, make sure you seek a mental health professional in your area to help you with the problems.
HeartMath has saved my life from working on anger to working on despair. It has been a long journey but well worth the journey. The anger issue is one that is the hardest one to work on. In my opinion, that's why I think those people with domestic violence issues have such a hard time not offending again. It takes a very in-depth look at your life to work past your domestic violence issues. HeartMath has many techniques.
HeartMath has many books but for those working on anger, here is the best of the books Transforming Anger: The HeartMath Solution for Letting Go of Rage, Frustration, and Irritation; this book will help your way to recovery from anger. Just keep this in mind; it will take a lot of work on your part, don't beat yourself up if you feel you have failed; as they say, pick yourself up by your bootstraps and keep working forward.
On my website, I will teach a class called HeartMath Living From Heart Course; the course will start on the 5th of April and go for five weeks from 6-7 pm on Mondays. To take the other courses, you need to have HeartMath Living From Heart Course because we will go in-depth with the HeartMath methods.